Flames of Jealousy

Saying jealousy is a strong emotion is like saying water will quench thirst. Solomon's Song of Songs describes jealousy as "unyielding as the grave. It burns like a blazing fire, like a mighty flame.” Even children use it to provoke anger or tears. Adults use it to try to reignite sagging interest in a relationship.

Jealousy can surface uninvited. A friend or colleague gets a promotion to a prestigious position. You smile, offer congratulations, but jealousy flows with a vengeance. To combat jealousy, force yourself to face the truth. Your colleague is better suited for the job. Her personality qualified her for the position.

As I accept the truth, the freer I become to let go of jealousy. When I pray sincerely for God to bless someone with success and make myself rejoice in their good fortune, the greater are my chances of finding inner peace. Warm, affectionate love and godly affirmations douse the flames of jealousy.  

I Demand to Win!

Jealousy's demands are powerful enough to be destructive. The news media features distraught individuals who in a state of rage kill someone because they want what they cannot have. Objectivity is lost when the jealous person believes the heart, soul, mind and body of another person belong to them. 

          Jealousy demands satisfaction no matter how absurd the demand may be. The goal is to win by causing hurt and pain to others. Rachel was barren but determined to have children by whatever means possible. She felt overshadowed by her sister Leah, so she gave Bilhah her maid-servant to Jacob to have children in her place.

          When Bilhah gave birth to two baby boys, Rachel clearly identified her jealousy. Listen as she justifies her actions and feelings: "God has vindicated me. He has listened to my plea. I had a great struggle with my sister and I have won.” Jealousy does not care about other people’s rights, making it contrary to God's plan and purpose.