Is It Possible to Purge Oneself of Hatred?

It’s within human nature to hate what causes suffering and pain. Hatred is powerful because of the social and spiritual stigma it fosters. Hatred does more damage to the one harboring it than to those to whom it is directed.

This truth, unfortunately, does little to convince the one nursing hatred to let it go and permit God to do his work. Hatred can cause a marriage to fail and drive a wedge between parents and children during and after divorce proceedings. Parents often use children to punish the ex-spouse.

Fractured and broken parents should never use their children as conveyers of punishment. 1 John 2:11 tells us if we permit hatred to take possession of us, we live in darkness, which implies the blessings of God will be absent from us, for God is light. In God there can be no darkness. 

Hatred conveys darkness and destruction, but forgiveness imparts healing and the blessing of God’s presence.                            

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Stop being bitter and angry and mad at others. Don’t yell at one another or curse each other or ever be rude. Instead, be kind and merciful, and forgive others, just as God forgave you because of Christ Jesus.

~Ephesians 4:31-32 Contemporary English Version

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How Severely Does Divorce Affect Children?

Divorce has been a spiritual, moral, and legal issue for thousands of years because the husband or wife or both decided against the marriage. Those seeking a divorce believe they made a mistake by permitting themselves to be chosen as a marriage partner.

A fractured and broken marriage negatively affects children, but it’s a fact that some children suffer more than others, which can drive a wedge between a parent and child that may endure for years. This happens when children are used as tools for punishing the other parent.

I realize that divorce causes everyone to experience the pain of grief when those involved willingly get stuck in anger and hatred. Intentionally driving a wedge between a parent and child is an offence that boomerangs on the perpetrator. Escaping this temptation can be done by permitting God to use the pain of grief and suffering to bring about his purpose for each person. Trust that God’s way is best.

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The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

~Psalm 34:18 New International Version

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