While
reactive anger can be abrupt and inflict permanent injuries, the possessor may
never feel guilt or regret. How could this be? When anger is expressed, the possessor
considers the consequences to be the fault of the one to whom the anger is
directed. The holder of reactive anger is too self-centered to feel at fault.
Reactive
anger is an unrestrained force levied against whomever is perceived as an
enemy. The enemy could be anyone who happens to be within range of its fury. The
trigger could be anything ranging from a minor to a major frustration, but
usually it’s an accumulation of frustrations that may have nothing to do with
the current issue.
The origin of
reactive anger may point to an earlier emotional issue that never was resolved,
but has the power to alienate family, friends or anyone exposed to its fury.
Realize you do not have God’s permission to express this type of anger. You can
learn to restrain it by seeking God’s help, by praying and by obtaining professional
counseling.
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Hot tempers start fights; a calm, cool
spirit keeps the peace.
~Proverbs 15:18 The Message
Stop your anger! Turn off your wrath. Don’t
fret and worry – it only leads to harm. For the wicked shall be destroyed, but
those who trust the Lord shall be given every blessing.
~Psalm 37:8-9 The
Living Bible
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