Own Your Own Problems

Marital conflicts may initially appear to be the most difficult kinds of conflict to resolve. Quarrels over sex, finances, extended family issues and lack of time for children emerge as major causes of dissatisfaction within the marital relationship. When communication fails to achieve positive results, about forty percent of married couples opt for divorce.

Much to the dismay of those in second marriages, similar conflicts begin to sabotage the new relationship. Searching for solutions within each person rather than the relationship may be the best option. Taking ownership of one’s own problems and seeking outside help rather than blaming others may save the marriage.

Personal counseling requires patience and an attitude determined to correct what is discovered. Realize it takes time to heal from wounds created in past relationships. Jesus encourages all who are weary to come to him for guidance and healing. He invites you to take up his yoke and learn from him how to find rest for your soul.  

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But what about the feuds and struggles that exist among you – where do you suppose they come from? Can’t you see that they arise from conflicting desires for pleasure within yourselves?

You crave for something and don’t get it; you are murderously jealous of what you can’t possess yourselves; you struggle and fight with one another.

You don’t get what you want because you don’t ask God for it. And when you do ask, he doesn’t give it to you, for you ask in quite the wrong spirit – you only want to satisfy your own desires.

~James 4:1-3 Phillips – New Testament in Modern English

Take my yoke on you and learn from Me

 – I am gentle and humble-minded –

Then you will find your rest.

~Matthew 11:29 Beck – New Testament in the Language of Today