The
reason for conflict is a clash of personality differences. Differences include how
we communicate, what we believe to be true about each other, and what we need
and want. We need to feel accepted, and likewise, we must accept others as they
are and learn to love them for who they are. Respecting each other's integrity
allows for individual differences and beliefs.
The alternative is frustration and
emotional alienation, if not physical separation. This is where anger plays a
major role. Fights, prompted by anger, are about who controls whom and what. Integrity
is wounded when control becomes a major issue in a relationship. Anger then is an
impediment to the health of a relationship.
An important
choice you can make is to respect the integrity of others. That means
respecting a person's right to be different. The alternative is conflict. You
can choose to let conflict be the motivation for changing. God is described as
being slow to anger, abounding in love, so He respects our integrity and appeals
to us to follow his example.
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