Compassionate Listening

The main purpose of straight talk as a communication tool is to share what’s important even when it may seem trivial. Every person has been guilty of marginally listening to someone who needs to share what they think or feel. Failure to experience the compassionate listening of another person accounts for some people concealing their thoughts and feelings.

Each person must feel assured they can share what’s inside of them without fear of reprisal or criticism. A sense of safety is required for revealing what is hidden in the heart and soul. Know that it takes discipline and self-control to listen, but the reward is gaining trust and love from the one who wants you to listen.

Listening with the intent to understand demands patience but conveys a sense of importance for the one who is speaking. The rewards are declared in an old Swedish proverb: “As we share our joys, they are doubled. As we share our sorrows, they are halved”. For this privilege of sharing who we are with special people, we give thanks to you, Christ Jesus.

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The one who knows much says little; 

an understanding person remains calm.

~Proverbs 17:27 The Message

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Inner Conflict? Let God Help - Part 2

Everyone experiences inner conflict. Recently a young woman identified two conflicting voices within her head. One voice was screaming, “You’re ugly, inferior, and unlovable!” The other side countered, “You’re smart, pretty, and lovable.” When the negative voice became dominant, she felt depressed and wanted to escape the pain.

While most inner conflicts do not produce extreme turmoil, lack of self-acceptance causes grief and sadness. Inner conflict distorts the true self, prohibiting the expression of trust and love for self and others. Fear of criticism often parallels self-condemnation. Internal conflict may diminish feeling the flow of love from God and others.

Job remarked to his friends, “Even if I were innocent, my mouth would condemn me; if I were blameless, it would pronounce me guilty.” The good news for those who trust Christ Jesus as Savior and Lord is that freedom from guilt and shame exists through his forgiveness and cleansing. Restoration of souls is God’s business.