Anger is seldom experienced in isolation. What
I've observed is that hurt feelings most often precede anger. What's it like to
have your feelings hurt? Most people will not admit their feelings are hurt
because it feels like a weakness. Can you imagine telling someone who was rude
or disrespectful they hurt your feelings?
It's
easier to allow hurt feelings to transform into anger. Hurt feelings portray
vulnerability. Anger projects invincibility with a readiness to defend. Hurt
feelings require comfort with soothing words while anger pushes others away. Anger
projects harshness with eyes dilated and blazing, willing to fight.
God
created us with the capacity to experience hurt and anger for our benefit. One
way to manage anger is being able to accept that hurt feelings are a prelude to
anger. Admitting hurt feelings is crucial to preventing anger from doing damage.
God respects honesty and truth, and he will help you accept hurt feelings as an
option to anger.
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