Most young
adults begin thinking about finding a partner of the opposite sex by creating a
mental image of what this lifelong mate will be like. Maturity enables a more
realistic ideal to emerge that permits love and friendship to thrive and
endure. Immaturity sets the stage for continuous power struggles that strive to
achieve what is impossible.
God conferred on humankind the
potential for giving and receiving love. Yet this wonderful gift can be
perverted by power struggles, which result in a "no win" situation. Striving
for dominance and control is a barrier to giving and receiving love freely. God
does not strive with us to insure that we give our love and loyalty to him.
Eliminating
power struggles in the search for intimacy is a personal choice. Power
struggles create vicious cycles, but by giving each other freedom to be him- or
herself and by living within mutually set boundaries, an atmosphere is created whereby
godly expectations can be met, allowing love to survive and grow strong.
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